My husband just told me that he has been worried lately that I am actually a lesbian. I reassured him that no, I am definitely not gay.
I have never been more openly vocal about my bisexuality, and even though it comes up only rarely with those outside of my relationship, if it does come up I will now allow it to instead of hastily changing the subject or avoiding questions. I have also been on a mad L Word marathon lately and though there is one bisexual character, even she is shown as mostly being with women, and I think my interest in that show has also made Hubby nervous.
There isn't a lot of bi culture out there. I have done a lot of research throughout this process of deciding to come out, and I find a lot of community and info centered around being gay, and very little for bi's. There is this whole invisibility that we have, because when we are with the same gender we are perceived as gay, and when we are with the opposite gender we are assumed to be straight. There also aren't any TV shows that I am aware of (Please let me know if there are!) featuring bi characters. So as a result of this lack in representation I have been immersed in a lot of "gay culture" websites and other media, and as a side effect Hubby has been dragged along for the ride.(Mostly by me saying: "Honey, guess what I read about today!")
Anyway, we had a talk about it. I told him that I find him very sexy and physically attractive, and that I love him with all my heart and always will. He said: "Ok. Lately I have just wondered a little." This just goes to show that even my husband who is my best friend can be a little nervous about bisexuality. If so, then I imagine general society will be even more nervous.
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